Mar 21

Beyond fear


I’ve been a bit quiet of late, I know. And in many ways I have let fear direct me more than the idea of possibility – to let fear of what might go wrong speak louder than the anticipation of what might go right.

Each of us can choose to live in a world of safety, where nothing much changes – a world that might not be exciting, but at least it’s familiar.. and safe. Dull.. but at least there are no surprises.

But for each and every one of us, there is a call in our hearts to be more, give more, love more, experience more. And there comes a time, as Elizabeth Appell wrote:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”

I am certain that each of us get to that point. We can chose to live with the pain, sure.. but wouldn’t it be easier to just.. blossom?

I like what Elizabeth Gilbert says about fear in her wonderful book “Big Magic – Creative Living Beyond Fear”. She recognises that on any journey, both fear and creativity will accompany you. She explains to the fear inside: “There’s more than enough room for all of us, so make yourself at home, but understand this. Creativity and I are the only ones who will be making any decisions along the way. I will respect you, but your decisions will never be followed. You can have a seat. You can have a voice. But you are not allowed to have a vote. You don’t get to suggest detours, you don’t get to touch the road maps. You don’t get to fiddle with the temperature and you sure as hell don’t get to play with the radio. But above all else fear, my old friend – you absolutely, categorically, without question, do not get to drive”.


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Aug 14

Creating the hero . . .


The storm happens to each one of us. No question. The big question is.. how will you respond to it?


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Feb 26

Step into the light…


I love the stark beauty of Chinese and Japanese calligraphy – that so much can be compressed into a few brushstrokes and still remain a thing of beauty. The I-Ching, the Chinese Book of Changes, contains similar wisdom, compressed into a brief statement that unfolds itself to its reader. This one represents ‘courage’.

Many of us feel that we have made mistakes, and many of us flee the implications of those mistakes. Maybe we run and hide, pretending that they never happened, that perhaps if we’re lucky it will all go away. Sometimes we beat ourselves up, continually flagellating ourselves, wracked with guilt over a decision or a choice that we made way back when. Sometimes we blame others, content to lay the responsibility for where we have found ourselves at someone else’s feet, whether we blame a colleague, a friend, a partner – or the government, the economy, our employer.

Only when we truly stand and courageously face our mistakes, when we own up to them and recognise our part in making choices that ultimately did not serve us, that did not help us get where we want to go, will something shift. Only when we take back the responsibility for things ‘going wrong’ (although in truth everything is working out just perfectly), when we drop the pretence, shrug off the illusions that we hide under – when we look at the situation clearly and without prejudice – only then will a light develop out of the confusion and guilt. As we choose to learn from the situation in humility and honesty, then we find ourselves in a place of deeper wisdom, more deeply rooted and grounded, more true to ourselves and with greater integrity. At that point, doors start to open, opportunities present themselves, and a path forward becomes clear.

And remember – we need to go easy on ourselves where we might have chosen unwisely. because each and every situation that we find ourselves in is an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to become more truly real – an opportunity to step into the incredible truth of who we really are.

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