Jan 01

UNLIMITED!

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And another year rolls round.and we step boldly into 2015. For some, it’s just a number that changes on a calendar. For some of us, it’s an opportunity to look at the year ahead and decide that we want it to be different from last year.

For me, 2014 was a year of dramatic contrast – some incredible joys, dramatic highs and wonderful happiness – and some deep moments of sadness and frustration. It’s a year in which many of my dreams and plans simply did not happen, a year where I seemed in some ways to step backwards. And yet, simply by choosing differently, 2015 will be very very different.

One of the things I have learned is that while it’s good to have goals, plans, intentions, dreams – we should never limit ourselves to those things. We’ve been taught that we need to have concrete well described goals, with a time frame for achieving them, with a quantifiable end result. And then, say the students of Intention and the Law of Attraction, we give the Universe and our unconscious minds enough to work on. We set our infinitely powerful minds to work on solving the problem, on making things happen. We draw from infinite resources to change our worlds and bring new things into being. And these things work. They really do. And as Oscar Hammerstein II famously observed in South Pacific “You gotta have a dream, [cause] if you don’t have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?”

But that’s the hard work. All those dreams, all those goals? Designed to do one thing. create a different state of feeling. You want to lose 10lb by June? Probably the intention is to feel healthier, to feel more energetic, to be more attractive . . .  That goal to create a new business? Is the intention actually to be a success, to be prosperous . . . That goal to travel the world? Isn’t the intention to be more adventurous, or to be more curious . . .

I know you have some goals – things you want to achieve in 2015. I hope they go beyond the ‘get fit, get healthy, fall in love, make more money, get more stuff’ and into the truly life changing ‘make a difference, change the world, create a new meaning to life’ kinda goals. But those are what coach Martha Beck calls ‘noun-verb’ goals. She suggests you look beyond the goals to the adjectives. How do those goals make you feel? When you get there, what will it be like? Will you feel successful? Empowered? Alive? Wise? Curious? Adventurous? Loving? That’s why I created this picture for 2015.with a list of things we can choose to be, ways we might behave, things that we can recognise in our lives states of being we can simply step into.

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So, this year, I started my 2015 planning with a look back at 2014 – there were a whole load of goals there that I didn’t get to. But when I looked behind the goals, I found that I really was behaving differently – that I had changed my state of being. (Oh, for sure, there’s a whole load of things I didn’t get right, and I had to spend a bit of time looking at my mistakes, and forgiving myself for making some really stupid blunders. What’s new?!)

So this year, when I started planning, I looked at what was important to me, the things that I truly value – things like Family, Friendship, Love, Adventure, Spirituality, Health, Purpose, Wisdom. and then I looked at what I wanted to BE in support of those values. Turns out I want to be adventurous, curious, wise, fearless, purposeful, passionate, unlimited. and a whole load more besides. and of course I can choose to simply start to begin to be those today, and grow into those more throughout the year as I choose to behave differently. It’s not so much about the goal – it’s about the journey – and who we become on that journey.

Now, for sure, there are some concrete things that I want to see happen through the year. but I know that the important stuff is in the way I am choosing to behave, in the stuff I am choosing to feel. And once I have decided that, then it becomes a simple process of choosing to step into that every day. And then, as if by magic, all your goals and more start to fall into place..

So. Happy New Year to each and every one of you. May you follow your dream, and may you light a candle this year that no-one can ever extinguish. Remember one thing this year – you really are an amazing creation: full of power, and wisdom, and love, and compassion, and magic.

Much love..

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Aug 11

Time to let go . . . . ?

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We spend a lot of time working out how to get what we want. We put huge amounts of energy into designing a career, working out how to find love, how we will spend our days.. and yet, if we just let go of all of that, we might just find that a whole new world, more incredible and more amazing than we had ever dreamt of, lies just a hand’s breadth away.

Edward Abbey’s prayer was this:

“May all your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view…where something strange and more beautiful and full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you.”

I’ve seen this so many times in my own life – that the plans that I have carefully created didn’t work out, but when I have chosen to go with the flow, to allow life to unfold, to say “Yes” to every opportunity, to live in the moment and allow the deeper plans to unfold – those have been the times when I have known how glorious and wonderful life can truly be.

 

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May 06

You have the answer–even if you don’t know it yet.

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Often we wonder ‘what should I do’? There seem so many choices, so many possibilities. What job should I go for? Where should I live? Should I buy a new car? Should I sell everything and travel the world? Should I start a new hobby? How do I increase my income? How can I help my family? I don’t know what the questions are that you face right now. but I do know this..

You have the answer.

Somewhere inside, the answer already exists. Because if you didn’t have the answer, you couldn’t have asked the question. We’re each one of us actually connected to an infinite source of wisdom, and the reason that we don’t ‘know’ the answer is usually because we’ve got in our own way. We surround ourselves with noise and chatter, drowning out the still, small, quiet urgings of our inner being. Oftentimes we make things too complicated, looking for a complex answer when the solution is far, far simpler. Usually we don’t believe the answer when it comes – surprising ourselves with an inner wisdom that we didn’t ever expect we had.

We need to listen and trust that inner voice that speaks quietly within. Sometimes we need to talk it out loud – when I was facing financial problems a few years back I would get up early in the morning and walk by the river, talking the problem over. Was I talking to myself? Maybe. Was I talking to God? Perhaps. What I do know is that as I verbalised it, answers came. Solutions started to appear.

Often the whole solution won’t appear straight away. As Martin Luther King Jr. reminds us:

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

One of the things about learning to listen to the voice of our soul is that we don’t get all the pieces at once. We get the first step. When we act on that first step, the next piece of the puzzle appears, the next solution presents itself, the next answer comes.

And that might appear in the strangest of places. A chance remark from a friend. The words of a song. A billboard advert. If those words speak to a deeper place inside, then trust them. They are the external evidence of something already happening inside you – because if they were not, then you would never have noticed them – they would have skated past your vision like the rest of the flotsam and jetsam of modern life.

And finally, for those of you who are just learning to listen, a suggestion from Sonia Choquette – choose to wonder. Wonder what the answer might be. Don’t figure it out, don’t ponder it, just wonder. “I wonder if I should move home”. “I wonder if I should go back to school”. Wondering takes the pressure of, and let’s the creative brain take over.

Try it. Trust it. And see what will happen.

Feb 26

Step into the light…

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I love the stark beauty of Chinese and Japanese calligraphy – that so much can be compressed into a few brushstrokes and still remain a thing of beauty. The I-Ching, the Chinese Book of Changes, contains similar wisdom, compressed into a brief statement that unfolds itself to its reader. This one represents ‘courage’.

Many of us feel that we have made mistakes, and many of us flee the implications of those mistakes. Maybe we run and hide, pretending that they never happened, that perhaps if we’re lucky it will all go away. Sometimes we beat ourselves up, continually flagellating ourselves, wracked with guilt over a decision or a choice that we made way back when. Sometimes we blame others, content to lay the responsibility for where we have found ourselves at someone else’s feet, whether we blame a colleague, a friend, a partner – or the government, the economy, our employer.

Only when we truly stand and courageously face our mistakes, when we own up to them and recognise our part in making choices that ultimately did not serve us, that did not help us get where we want to go, will something shift. Only when we take back the responsibility for things ‘going wrong’ (although in truth everything is working out just perfectly), when we drop the pretence, shrug off the illusions that we hide under – when we look at the situation clearly and without prejudice – only then will a light develop out of the confusion and guilt. As we choose to learn from the situation in humility and honesty, then we find ourselves in a place of deeper wisdom, more deeply rooted and grounded, more true to ourselves and with greater integrity. At that point, doors start to open, opportunities present themselves, and a path forward becomes clear.

And remember – we need to go easy on ourselves where we might have chosen unwisely. because each and every situation that we find ourselves in is an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to become more truly real – an opportunity to step into the incredible truth of who we really are.

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Feb 07

Make peace with yourself

agreeSometimes children come up with little gems of wisdom that make you think “that’s really cool”. My son, David, aged around 6 or 7, looked up at me and said “You know, Dad, before you can make a deal, you have to agree with yourself” and I thought… that’s something to think about!

And this one seems to be true on so many levels.

I think the first thing is that before we can make any sort of agreement with someone else, we have to have true peace in our heart first. Those things we decide despite the fact that we’re not happy about them, whether out of compromise or desperation – those things turn out to be the big mistakes that take us into places we didn’t need to go.

 

Secondly, we need to have thought it through ourselves. Decisions made that are poorly thought through usually end up going badly wrong. I’m not saying that we need to become paralysed by thinking too much… but those knee jerk reactions are usually going to let us down. The exception to this, I would say, is when there is a tug in our heart that says ‘do this’. Those tugs can be trusted. They come from a deeper place, a place of wisdom and connection. Trust them.

Thirdly, I think that we need to have the peace that this is the right thing for the other person too. The universe works on a win win basis… the universe will not ultimately honour anything that takes away from the other person because it’s unfair or because it doesn’t respect them.

And ultimately, in agreements with others as in life itself, we have to come from a place of wholeness in our lives. We have to find a way of integrating body, mind and soul. I’m not one of these people who advise you not to trust your body or your mind – the ones that protest that they have ‘evolved above into a world where they are guided by their souls alone’.

It seems to me that we were ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ and that what we are works best together. Sometimes we will get a ‘gut reaction’ – and we can trust it. Sometimes things ‘don’t seem to add up’, or they make sense’ – and we follow that. Other times, it seems that we are guided by an energy, a wisdom that comes from a place outside of ourselves – and we can place our trust in that.

We are wiser than we know, when we learn to listen to our whole being.. and then we can make decisions, and agreements, and commitments, that benefit us, our friends, our colleagues, our families, and, ultimately, the world. When we act from a place of total inner integrity then we become… unstoppable.