Aug 11

Time to let go . . . . ?

give up your plans

We spend a lot of time working out how to get what we want. We put huge amounts of energy into designing a career, working out how to find love, how we will spend our days.. and yet, if we just let go of all of that, we might just find that a whole new world, more incredible and more amazing than we had ever dreamt of, lies just a hand’s breadth away.

Edward Abbey’s prayer was this:

“May all your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view…where something strange and more beautiful and full of wonder than your deepest dreams waits for you.”

I’ve seen this so many times in my own life – that the plans that I have carefully created didn’t work out, but when I have chosen to go with the flow, to allow life to unfold, to say “Yes” to every opportunity, to live in the moment and allow the deeper plans to unfold – those have been the times when I have known how glorious and wonderful life can truly be.


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Mar 19

It’s time to be quiet – and to listen to the beating of your heart


This week we’re considering Gabrielle Roth’s assertion that:

“In many shamanic societies, if you came to a medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.

When did you stop dancing?

When did you stop singing?

When did you stop being enchanted by stories?

When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?”

And because all wizards start at the end and work back, I’m going to look first at the last question:

When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?”

Each of us needs silence in our lives. We live in the chaos of competing noise and distraction, of music and television, of constant conversation. We get to the point where we actually cannot deal with silence, where we become unnerved by the sound of our own thoughts, and rush back to the safety of noise and chaos.

Yet the ancients knew the value of silence. Of taking time out to just sit. Many wealthy men claim to owe their success to taking time to just sit in silence – perhaps to wait for ideas to come, perhaps just to create stillness.

Sometimes it’s good to think, to ponder in the silence. Sometimes it’s good to just be mindful in the moment – to be aware of everything around you – the touch of the breeze on your skin, the slightest sounds, to be aware of your breathing, to listen to the beating of your own heart. Sometimes it’s good to reach out beyond yourself – to God, to The Universe, to Love, to the collective consciousness. however you see it. But the important thing is simply to.stop.

Martha Beck in her wonderful book ‘Steering By Starlight’ lists the three steps to find your path in the chaos of today – to build a map to your dreams:

1. Go to the mapmaker’s studio

Find a comfortable space. Connect with energy & the divine. Drop the shackles and the limits. Soak yourself in stillness, silence, space and timelessness.

2. Draw the map

Know that you lack nothing. Set a destination for abundant love. Set a destination for your perfect ‘work’. Set a destination for your perfect adventure.

Then write it down.

3. Cast the spell that turns dreams into reality

“Thanks. I quit”

There are times when we need to quit. To get off of the treadmill of activity and the relentlessness of ‘doing’ – and to simply choose to just sit, for a moment, in the silence. to let everything, just for a while, drop away.and to stop.