Wisdom from the Blues….

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First an apology for the lack of post yesterday. Yesterday, I had nothing. And that’s OK. But I thought I’d create a multimedia experience for you today, blending some blues boogie, some video, and some wisdom from one of my favourite blues singer songwriters.

I loved this track “What You’re Looking For” from Jonny Lang:

You always see only see what you want to see
Always walking in your own reality
Are you awake or are you living inside a dream?
Making movies in the back of your mind
Frame by frame, line by line
You’re changing and re-arranging it all the time
But it always ends the same and you don’t know why
[Chorus]
If you’re looking for love
you’re going to find it
If you’re looking for faith
you’re going to find it
If you’re looking for hope
you’re going to find it
you’re going to finally find what you’re looking for
If you’re looking for fear
you’re going to find it
if you’re looking for trouble
you’re going to find it
if you’re looking for love
you’re finally going to find what you’re looking for

Two people could be walking in the same shoes
And at the same time hear the same news
One’s laughing and the other one’s crying
One is living and the other one’s dying
So tell me now which one is you
Cause in the end it’s up to you
Cause the fact is that’s there’s only one truth
And the only difference is a point of view
[Chorus]
And when you finally find it, there’ll be no denying
That you were holding it the whole time
Tomorrow’s too late, you just can’t wait
To change your mind

(Corrected the “gonnas” – can’t let those stand)

Find what you’re looking for

 

So what do I take away from this?

I think you really do find what you’re looking to find. If you’re looking for and expecting to find love – you’ll find it popping up in all sorts of ways in your life. If you’re looking for and expecting to find wealth and prosperity, then you’re going to recognise all the ways that it appears in your life. If you’re looking for and expecting to find adventure, then you’re going to notice all the ways that your life is an adventure.

And noticing what you already have tends to attract even more of it into your life.

Human beings have what’s called a reticular activating system – it’s the system that, as soon as you’ve decided to buy a purple Mini, suddenly you notice that there are an awful lot of purple Minis around all of a sudden. Because I am focussed on finding inspiring quotes and subjects for this blog, I hear them all around me – in movies and TV shows, in books, in snippets of conversation.

If you go out with a sense of ‘everyone’s a jerk’ then guess what – you find ways to see everyone as a jerk, and they behave in ways that piss you off. If you go out with a sense of ‘people are wonderful’ then sure enough, people end up being lovely. It may sound naive, but honestly, I would rather believe the best of people and occasionally be disappointed, than believe the worst and be disappointed all the time!

We do have to distinguish between ‘wanting’ with that sense of desperation “must have this or I will be unhappy” and ‘wanting’ with a sense of both “I’d really like that to happen” and “you know, I already feel a lot like that” though.  Desperation tends to push things away. Recognising the good stuff that’s already in your life tends to create more like that.

A friend and I were discussing this a while back. “The secret to finding the big happy”, she said, “it seems to me, to be simply to decide to be happy. And once you decide to be happy, and you’re expecting to be happy, and you’re looking for all the ways you can be happy – then suddenly you realise that happy. is what you are”

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